Daleyza

I am thirty-six years old. And my time is divided between work in a high stress profession 8 hrs a day, five days a week and I'm married with a DH and children just as darling.

Last year I got a promotion which increased our income but also my workload/responsibilities. Fast forward a year and we our expecting out third little bundle of joy.

And the question I have been asking myself is: "will I self-destruct?" And for the life of me the only way that I see to get it done is through some careful/creative planning. Something that I enjoy doing anyway. The feasibility that I can maintain my current position is a little shaky now.

Making A Plan

Making a plan is crucial, whether is is a family plan, a work plan, or a life plan. The more granular and specific you can make it to a specific activity the better. As it stands I

Right now I would have a little bit of maternity leave which will make the first weeks easier, however, when I return to work I will have to hit the ground running. I am not confident that that will - in the long run - be that easy.

As I said before, my work is manageable now because I work it around a pretty tight schedule that is well worth the time that I put into it. My co-workers will have their own ideas of priority and things will be done to fit them. As it should be. However, I will have to put things back into order so that they work for me. And that is where my concerns come from.

So how do I plan so meticulously? What sort of magic or app do I use?

I don't do any of that. I grab a piece of paper, just your standard printer paper, and start blocking things out.

First I start by writing down the days of the week. Next I will write down what needs to be done on a daily basis to be finished for the week. My plan incorporates both professional and personal so I know what will be neglected if I miss one of my points. And then I do everything in my power to stick to the plan.

In most cases I will work through lunch breaks and most breaks to get a little extra time so that I can get everything done.

I have been making plans since my final year of high school.

And I have no intention of stopping.

Daleyza

As you may know we were having a bit of a problem with family members wanting to host a baby shower for us. You can read about it here.

It must have struck a nerve with some of my readers because usually I do not receive any comments. In this case email.

After the post went live I got a lot of responses from people. Some were positive and others not so. Honestly, I am not sure what got people to respond but it was nice to get at least some feedback.

Positive

  • Our desire to shave our family from "shelling out" for another baby shower was a common theme among the messages people sent.
  • Our desire to host a celebration for the family instead of the other way around was also very popular.

Negative

  • Our ignorance about the importance of community building and sticking with tradition was a negative for some. I am lumping a couple of the sentiments together here because they should be grouped together. Otherwise it would be a long list on this side.
  • Our audacity about failing to accept a gift. Actually some gifts were given and we were always grateful.

So how did it go? That is the question you are asking now I am sure? Or you have lost interest in how the day went.

In either case I will inform you anyway.