Daleyza

What is life if not the valuable time that we spend with our families? I don't know what people are thinking when they say they wish they could spend more time in the office.

The truth is that the majority of people that spend their lives in their office are not that productive to begin with. I have seen this pattern time and time again. On top of that they are rarely prepared to demonstrate what they've done to be a productive part of the team. And yet, these are the same people that feel it is in their best interest to complain if you do your work and leave.

It's family time!

Daleyza

I am thirty-six years old. And my time is divided between work in a high stress profession 8 hrs a day, five days a week and I'm married with a DH and children just as darling.

Last year I got a promotion which increased our income but also my workload/responsibilities. Fast forward a year and we our expecting out third little bundle of joy.

And the question I have been asking myself is: "will I self-destruct?" And for the life of me the only way that I see to get it done is through some careful/creative planning. Something that I enjoy doing anyway. The feasibility that I can maintain my current position is a little shaky now.

Making A Plan

Making a plan is crucial, whether is is a family plan, a work plan, or a life plan. The more granular and specific you can make it to a specific activity the better. As it stands I

Right now I would have a little bit of maternity leave which will make the first weeks easier, however, when I return to work I will have to hit the ground running. I am not confident that that will - in the long run - be that easy.

As I said before, my work is manageable now because I work it around a pretty tight schedule that is well worth the time that I put into it. My co-workers will have their own ideas of priority and things will be done to fit them. As it should be. However, I will have to put things back into order so that they work for me. And that is where my concerns come from.

So how do I plan so meticulously? What sort of magic or app do I use?

I don't do any of that. I grab a piece of paper, just your standard printer paper, and start blocking things out.

First I start by writing down the days of the week. Next I will write down what needs to be done on a daily basis to be finished for the week. My plan incorporates both professional and personal so I know what will be neglected if I miss one of my points. And then I do everything in my power to stick to the plan.

In most cases I will work through lunch breaks and most breaks to get a little extra time so that I can get everything done.

I have been making plans since my final year of high school.

And I have no intention of stopping.

Daleyza

For some reason kiwis have become the hit of the year - or at least the week - with my children. Kiwis, those healthy little green delights that will pucker the faces of most three year olds don't seem a likely treat. They have less sugar than apples and more vitamin C than many other types of fruit but my children love them. Lucky for them I love the idea of them eating lots of fruits and veggies.

Fun for the Whole Family

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Kiwifruit, green, raw
Nutritional value per 100 g (3.5 oz)
Energy 255 kJ (61 kcal)
Carbohydrates
14.66 g
Sugars 8.99 g
Dietary fiber 3 g
Fat
0.52 g
Protein
1.14 g
Vitamins Quantity %DV
Vitamin A equiv.
lutein zeaxanthin
122 μg
Thiamine (B1)
2%
0.027 mg
Riboflavin (B2)
2%
0.025 mg
Niacin (B3)
2%
0.341 mg
Pantothenic acid (B5)
4%
0.183 mg
Vitamin B6
5%
0.063 mg
Folate (B9)
6%
25 μg
Vitamin B12
0%
0 μg
Choline
2%
7.8 mg
Vitamin C
112%
92.7 mg
Vitamin E
10%
1.46 mg
Vitamin K
38%
40.3 μg
Minerals Quantity %DV
Calcium
3%
34 mg
Copper
7%
0.13 mg
Iron
2%
0.31 mg
Magnesium
5%
17 mg
Manganese
5%
0.098 mg
Phosphorus
5%
34 mg
Potassium
7%
312 mg
Selenium
0%
0.2 μg
Sodium
0%
3 mg
Zinc
1%
0.14 mg
Other constituents Quantity
Water 83 g

Link to USDA Database entry
  • Units
  • μg = micrograms • mg = milligrams
  • IU = International units
Percentages are roughly approximated using US recommendations for adults.
Source: USDA Nutrient Database

The whole fruit, including the skin, is suitable for human consumption; however, the skin is often discarded due to its texture.

We've been eating the skins, my husband and I, and they also have a nice taste. I would almost say that they have a stronger kiwi flavor than the actual fruit inside. I just don't let our babies eat them because of the high fiber content.

No matter what part you eat you get a nice dose of vitamins.

The only time I got a reaction other than satisfaction from my little girl was when she bit into a softer spot. The kiwifruit had been bruised and it tasted a little different and had an unknown texture.

You can see why I love it that my children are so fond of the little green fruit. Let's just hope that the trend lasts!

Daleyza

As you may know we were having a bit of a problem with family members wanting to host a baby shower for us. You can read about it here.

It must have struck a nerve with some of my readers because usually I do not receive any comments. In this case email.

After the post went live I got a lot of responses from people. Some were positive and others not so. Honestly, I am not sure what got people to respond but it was nice to get at least some feedback.

Positive

  • Our desire to shave our family from "shelling out" for another baby shower was a common theme among the messages people sent.
  • Our desire to host a celebration for the family instead of the other way around was also very popular.

Negative

  • Our ignorance about the importance of community building and sticking with tradition was a negative for some. I am lumping a couple of the sentiments together here because they should be grouped together. Otherwise it would be a long list on this side.
  • Our audacity about failing to accept a gift. Actually some gifts were given and we were always grateful.

So how did it go? That is the question you are asking now I am sure? Or you have lost interest in how the day went.

In either case I will inform you anyway.

Daleyza

Hum, maybe I should reconsider that title ... No. I like it. It also fits with today's theme quite nicely.

Baby showers and how many is too many?.

We are expecting our third child - due late spring - and we are very excited about the newest addition to our family. The problem is, so is everyone else in the family. That is why my mother and aunt, who was for all extensive purposes more like a big sister when I was growing up are throwing my husband and me a baby shower.

This would be shower number three. And it felt strange when we had our first one, the second was even more of a stretch since my husband and I were even more established, we also had many of the things one needs when caring for a baby.

We didn't need to buy a changing table, crib, cradle, or any of the other items one normally acquires when having their first child.

And on the other side I can understand why they want to celebrate. They're our family and they want to be included.

We appreciate this and have been looking for ways to compromise.

One thing that my husband and I have been contemplating is actually having a celebration. A Sip and See is an option, but that happens after the birth. My family would be hard pressed to miss out on the sort of celebration one normally associates with a baby shower since we will probably end up doing something similar later as well.

But the idea of a reverse shower, one where we treat the guests instead of them showering us with gifts seems like the most reasonable. And I have looked around, they appear to be common enough. They even have invitations and supplies for this type of celebration. So it isn't unheard of. My question though is if it is common.

I have voiced my concern with my husband that it would be rude to invite people to yet another shower. We both have good jobs and we do not need the supplies for our next child. Even if we did I would have a problem asking for them a third time. But I guess that is my sensibilities.

Out of curiosity I went ahead and looked to see if having more than one was seen as a taboo. Actually I guess I am old fashioned. At one time it was seen as bad style to have more than one baby shower. Not more than one child mind you. Any time you ask for gifts it is usually a one time thing. But in recent years, maybe the last two decades you can have more than one and not be seen as a greedy baby bottle hoarder.

Thank goodness!

For me it still feels like it is a little too much. I am all for sharing the day with family and having fun and I think that has been the reasoning behind my mother and aunt's insistence that they be allowed to host the shower but it is really the shower aspect that makes it uncomfortable to me.

I will keep you informed

Daleyza

For several years this site has been a place for me to share my hobby. Namely Cryptids and paranormal activity related research. This is something that has always filled me with a lot of enthusiasm and given me an outlet for my analytical side. Today I thought that I would change the subject but not that same sense of analysis and focus on something that is equally important to me. Family.

Some of you know that we have an active growing family and you have asked how we manage to balance everything.

This is a question that I ask myself as well at times.

Usually though we have time for everything with a little bit of energy left to spare.

We have two children ages three and four and a half with the third (and final) on the way. On top of that we have careers that keep us busier than we would like.

The reason that I am bring this up is due to a conversation my husband had with a college. He and a senior in the company were having dinner. The college brought up a story that involved him and a client at the company.

I will try to make it brief, without needing to go into the back story. But it involved the client not taking a great job opportunity. This confused my husband's college and couldn't see the sense in it when the client tried to explain. The client said that he didn't want to work that much. Period. And they had a good reason to, simply; he had kids, a family, frankly he liked that his job allowed him to time with them.

Honestly? This is a very reasonable explanation in my opinion.

Both the college and company senior were ashamed of the man and his lack of regard for his job. For me this is putting the cart in front of the horse. And though it has been working at the current state, once baby number three arrives my husband wants to look for another job. And honestly with a corporate culture like that I fully support him.