I work hard and my career is very important to me. Does that mean that I don't have enough time for my family? Does it mean that I don't have a chance to follow my interests? No, not at all. It just means that I have a harder time finding a place for those interests.
I work very hard. But at the same time I love my job and I find that it fulfills me in the same way that my family life fulfills me.
While I have been told that I work more than some people in my company I can say from personal observation that I also work less than others. Productivity and success in the company is not improved or impacted for those who work less or those that work more. For me, productivity, operates on the ability to plan. I use up every moment I have for tasks that need to be accomplished. Both at work and at home I try to work as efficiently as I can.
This is method to also maximize free time.
You see I don't work non-stop. I set time aside at home just as if I was scheduling tasks at work.
One example that I could use would be email. Yes I still use email. It works for me and I feel less hassled by it than by text etc. because I can actually use full sentences. Anyway, I check and reply to email first thing in the morning. This gives me a chance to focus on the specifics of the email throughout the day.
If I didn't I would be frantically trying to handle the "problems" as they come in. And that means in off hours as well.
As a parent and wife I have the obligation to protect my family and that means from my job as well. The thought of having my children to grow up and only remember me sitting at a desk or at the kitchen table buried under work is heartbreaking image.
That said I haven't always succeeded in juggling everything. And it can get tricky at times. But one setback doesn't need to derail you.
That is the trick to success as much in your professional life as in your personal.
What is life if not the valuable time that we spend with our families? I don't know what people are thinking when they say they wish they could spend more time in the office.
The truth is that the majority of people that spend their lives in their office are not that productive to begin with. I have seen this pattern time and time again. On top of that they are rarely prepared to demonstrate what they've done to be a productive part of the team. And yet, these are the same people that feel it is in their best interest to complain if you do your work and leave.
It's family time!
I am thirty-six years old. And my time is divided between work in a high stress profession 8 hrs a day, five days a week and I'm married with a DH and children just as darling.
Last year I got a promotion which increased our income but also my workload/responsibilities. Fast forward a year and we our expecting out third little bundle of joy.
And the question I have been asking myself is: "will I self-destruct?" And for the life of me the only way that I see to get it done is through some careful/creative planning. Something that I enjoy doing anyway. The feasibility that I can maintain my current position is a little shaky now.
Making A Plan
Making a plan is crucial, whether is is a family plan, a work plan, or a life plan. The more granular and specific you can make it to a specific activity the better. As it stands I
Right now I would have a little bit of maternity leave which will make the first weeks easier, however, when I return to work I will have to hit the ground running. I am not confident that that will - in the long run - be that easy.
As I said before, my work is manageable now because I work it around a pretty tight schedule that is well worth the time that I put into it. My co-workers will have their own ideas of priority and things will be done to fit them. As it should be. However, I will have to put things back into order so that they work for me. And that is where my concerns come from.
So how do I plan so meticulously? What sort of magic or app do I use?
I don't do any of that. I grab a piece of paper, just your standard printer paper, and start blocking things out.
First I start by writing down the days of the week. Next I will write down what needs to be done on a daily basis to be finished for the week. My plan incorporates both professional and personal so I know what will be neglected if I miss one of my points. And then I do everything in my power to stick to the plan.
In most cases I will work through lunch breaks and most breaks to get a little extra time so that I can get everything done.
I have been making plans since my final year of high school.
And I have no intention of stopping.
For some reason kiwis have become the hit of the year - or at least the week - with my children. Kiwis, those healthy little green delights that will pucker the faces of most three year olds don't seem a likely treat. They have less sugar than apples and more vitamin C than many other types of fruit but my children love them. Lucky for them I love the idea of them eating lots of fruits and veggies.
Fun for the Whole Family
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Kiwifruit, green, raw
|Nutritional value per 100 g (3.5 oz)|
|Energy||255 kJ (61 kcal)|
|Dietary fiber||3 g|
|Vitamin A equiv.|
2% 0.027 mg
2% 0.025 mg
2% 0.341 mg
|Pantothenic acid (B5)|
4% 0.183 mg
5% 0.063 mg
6% 25 μg
0% 0 μg
2% 7.8 mg
112% 92.7 mg
10% 1.46 mg
38% 40.3 μg
3% 34 mg
7% 0.13 mg
2% 0.31 mg
5% 17 mg
5% 0.098 mg
5% 34 mg
7% 312 mg
0% 0.2 μg
0% 3 mg
1% 0.14 mg
Link to USDA Database entry
- μg = micrograms • mg = milligrams
- IU = International units
|†Percentages are roughly approximated using US recommendations for adults. |
Source: USDA Nutrient Database
The whole fruit, including the skin, is suitable for human consumption; however, the skin is often discarded due to its texture.
We've been eating the skins, my husband and I, and they also have a nice taste. I would almost say that they have a stronger kiwi flavor than the actual fruit inside. I just don't let our babies eat them because of the high fiber content.
No matter what part you eat you get a nice dose of vitamins.
The only time I got a reaction other than satisfaction from my little girl was when she bit into a softer spot. The kiwifruit had been bruised and it tasted a little different and had an unknown texture.
You can see why I love it that my children are so fond of the little green fruit. Let's just hope that the trend lasts!
As you may know we were having a bit of a problem with family members wanting to host a baby shower for us. You can read about it here.
It must have struck a nerve with some of my readers because usually I do not receive any comments. In this case email.
After the post went live I got a lot of responses from people. Some were positive and others not so. Honestly, I am not sure what got people to respond but it was nice to get at least some feedback.
- Our desire to shave our family from "shelling out" for another baby shower was a common theme among the messages people sent.
- Our desire to host a celebration for the family instead of the other way around was also very popular.
- Our ignorance about the importance of community building and sticking with tradition was a negative for some. I am lumping a couple of the sentiments together here because they should be grouped together. Otherwise it would be a long list on this side.
- Our audacity about failing to accept a gift. Actually some gifts were given and we were always grateful.
So how did it go? That is the question you are asking now I am sure? Or you have lost interest in how the day went.
In either case I will inform you anyway.
Hum, maybe I should reconsider that title ... No. I like it. It also fits with today's theme quite nicely.
Baby showers and how many is too many?.
We are expecting our third child - due late spring - and we are very excited about the newest addition to our family. The problem is, so is everyone else in the family. That is why my mother and aunt, who was for all extensive purposes more like a big sister when I was growing up are throwing my husband and me a baby shower.
This would be shower number three. And it felt strange when we had our first one, the second was even more of a stretch since my husband and I were even more established, we also had many of the things one needs when caring for a baby.
We didn't need to buy a changing table, crib, cradle, or any of the other items one normally acquires when having their first child.
And on the other side I can understand why they want to celebrate. They're our family and they want to be included.
We appreciate this and have been looking for ways to compromise.
One thing that my husband and I have been contemplating is actually having a celebration. A Sip and See is an option, but that happens after the birth. My family would be hard pressed to miss out on the sort of celebration one normally associates with a baby shower since we will probably end up doing something similar later as well.
But the idea of a reverse shower, one where we treat the guests instead of them showering us with gifts seems like the most reasonable. And I have looked around, they appear to be common enough. They even have invitations and supplies for this type of celebration. So it isn't unheard of. My question though is if it is common.
I have voiced my concern with my husband that it would be rude to invite people to yet another shower. We both have good jobs and we do not need the supplies for our next child. Even if we did I would have a problem asking for them a third time. But I guess that is my sensibilities.
Out of curiosity I went ahead and looked to see if having more than one was seen as a taboo. Actually I guess I am old fashioned. At one time it was seen as bad style to have more than one baby shower. Not more than one child mind you. Any time you ask for gifts it is usually a one time thing. But in recent years, maybe the last two decades you can have more than one and not be seen as a greedy baby bottle hoarder.
For me it still feels like it is a little too much. I am all for sharing the day with family and having fun and I think that has been the reasoning behind my mother and aunt's insistence that they be allowed to host the shower but it is really the shower aspect that makes it uncomfortable to me.
I will keep you informed