As you may know we were having a bit of a problem with family members wanting to host a baby shower for us. You can read about it here.
It must have struck a nerve with some of my readers because usually I do not receive any comments. In this case email.
After the post went live I got a lot of responses from people. Some were positive and others not so. Honestly, I am not sure what got people to respond but it was nice to get at least some feedback.
- Our desire to shave our family from "shelling out" for another baby shower was a common theme among the messages people sent.
- Our desire to host a celebration for the family instead of the other way around was also very popular.
- Our ignorance about the importance of community building and sticking with tradition was a negative for some. I am lumping a couple of the sentiments together here because they should be grouped together. Otherwise it would be a long list on this side.
- Our audacity about failing to accept a gift. Actually some gifts were given and we were always grateful.
So how did it go? That is the question you are asking now I am sure? Or you have lost interest in how the day went.
In either case I will inform you anyway.
Hum, maybe I should reconsider that title ... No. I like it. It also fits with today's theme quite nicely.
Baby showers and how many is too many?.
We are expecting our third child - due late spring - and we are very excited about the newest addition to our family. The problem is, so is everyone else in the family. That is why my mother and aunt, who was for all extensive purposes more like a big sister when I was growing up are throwing my husband and me a baby shower.
This would be shower number three. And it felt strange when we had our first one, the second was even more of a stretch since my husband and I were even more established, we also had many of the things one needs when caring for a baby.
We didn't need to buy a changing table, crib, cradle, or any of the other items one normally acquires when having their first child.
And on the other side I can understand why they want to celebrate. They're our family and they want to be included.
We appreciate this and have been looking for ways to compromise.
One thing that my husband and I have been contemplating is actually having a celebration. A Sip and See is an option, but that happens after the birth. My family would be hard pressed to miss out on the sort of celebration one normally associates with a baby shower since we will probably end up doing something similar later as well.
But the idea of a reverse shower, one where we treat the guests instead of them showering us with gifts seems like the most reasonable. And I have looked around, they appear to be common enough. They even have invitations and supplies for this type of celebration. So it isn't unheard of. My question though is if it is common.
I have voiced my concern with my husband that it would be rude to invite people to yet another shower. We both have good jobs and we do not need the supplies for our next child. Even if we did I would have a problem asking for them a third time. But I guess that is my sensibilities.
Out of curiosity I went ahead and looked to see if having more than one was seen as a taboo. Actually I guess I am old fashioned. At one time it was seen as bad style to have more than one baby shower. Not more than one child mind you. Any time you ask for gifts it is usually a one time thing. But in recent years, maybe the last two decades you can have more than one and not be seen as a greedy baby bottle hoarder.
For me it still feels like it is a little too much. I am all for sharing the day with family and having fun and I think that has been the reasoning behind my mother and aunt's insistence that they be allowed to host the shower but it is really the shower aspect that makes it uncomfortable to me.
I will keep you informed
For several years this site has been a place for me to share my hobby. Namely Cryptids and paranormal activity related research. This is something that has always filled me with a lot of enthusiasm and given me an outlet for my analytical side. Today I thought that I would change the subject but not that same sense of analysis and focus on something that is equally important to me. Family.
Some of you know that we have an active growing family and you have asked how we manage to balance everything.
This is a question that I ask myself as well at times.
Usually though we have time for everything with a little bit of energy left to spare.
We have two children ages three and four and a half with the third (and final) on the way. On top of that we have careers that keep us busier than we would like.
The reason that I am bring this up is due to a conversation my husband had with a college. He and a senior in the company were having dinner. The college brought up a story that involved him and a client at the company.
I will try to make it brief, without needing to go into the back story. But it involved the client not taking a great job opportunity. This confused my husband's college and couldn't see the sense in it when the client tried to explain. The client said that he didn't want to work that much. Period. And they had a good reason to, simply; he had kids, a family, frankly he liked that his job allowed him to time with them.
Honestly? This is a very reasonable explanation in my opinion.
Both the college and company senior were ashamed of the man and his lack of regard for his job. For me this is putting the cart in front of the horse. And though it has been working at the current state, once baby number three arrives my husband wants to look for another job. And honestly with a corporate culture like that I fully support him.
I am an outdoorswoman, I'm very experienced in hunting, camping, hiking, and general survival.
I'm very familiar and used to wildlife, and I was charged by what I believe was a cryptid called a dogman, it charged me and my cousin, it was not a bear, a bear cannot move how it did, and it was not a normal wolf as they can't comfortably run on 2 legs whereas what charged us seemed natural at doing.
This happened around June or July of 1997 I believe, I was around 17 years old and more cocky then, but still somewhat knowledgeable of the outdoors.
My family used to own a cabin in NW Wisconsin, I basically grew up there in the summer, I knew the woods well, but at night it was wise to stay in the cabin or at least by the bonfire by the beach, because of bears, wolves, and cougars. One of the creepiest things was if you were having a bonfire, the treeline was visible from the fire pit and beach, and at night you always felt like you were being watched from that treeline. But during the day the woods always seemed normal, not so creepy, that is until this incident. So this happened somewhere between 1200-1400.
Me and my cousin were having an airsoft battle, I was in full woodland camo, he was not, I retreated onto the ATV trail into the woods for a tactical advantage and our battle took us about 200 meters in to about a third of the way up the trail. We had enough at this point and were standing at the edge of a clearing on the trail talking and he was maybe 10 feet from me, when I decided to mess with him, I shushed him and said "we're being watched", he froze, then I realized the woods were dead quiet and I got spooked and started scanning the treeline and the other edge of the clearing from left to right when I saw it. It's teeth gave it away, it was panting and staring at my cousin, I don't expect you to believe me, but what I saw was a wolf as big as a black bear, at least 300lbs, but it wasn't normal, this wolf was on 2 legs crouching next to tree with its arm grasping the tree, grasping with a clawed hand, it had reddish brown fur.
I told my cousin that "we have to go" and next thing I know he is sprinting and I look back at wolfy who had locked on and sprinted a few steps on two feet and then I turned and ran when it looked like wolfy was dropping to all fours, it charged us and sounded right on our asses barreling through the brush, but for whatever reason let us go when we broke out of the tree line and headed for the cabin. What stuck with me the most was the sheer size, wolfy appeared to be nearly 7' tall when upright, and that where it should've had front paws it appeared to have large clawed hands.
Now I'm not sure how to explain it away rationally, I have heard wolves will occasionally kind of walk upright but as far as I know they can't sprint on 2 legs, nor do wolves get that big, and black bears more waddle on 2 legs. The closest description is silly, a werewolf or dogman. Thank you for reading. . . .
this just happend to me like a couple nights ago and has been a ongoing thing now for a year or so.
It started like a year ago when my exes dad was sleeping in his tent trailer on the side of my yard.
A steep gravel road comes out of thick dense forest that curves around my house and leads to a steep drop off into more dense forest which has a stream at the bottom.
Sometimes I see deer and beer go running into the area with the drop off to go down and get water. Anyways one night he is asleep and hears what he swears is a person mumbling to themselves in a language he can't understand.
He looks outside and sees what he explains as a big ass dog. Bigger then anything he's ever seen. Now I blow it off because It sounds ridiculous and he doesn't sleep with his glasses on so I figured he just misidentified a coyote which we have around our house.
A couple of months later it's around one in the morning I let my dogs out and they are acting scared shit less I can't get them to go outside to potty because they are just too scared they refuse to leave my porch in fact my pug just shits right there on my porch. I bring them in and this is the first night I hear the squeeling, I was raised around livestock so I know what a pig sounds like but this was different imagine a piglet being slaughtered but run through some sort of audio distortion making it sound off.
It's hard to explain without a clip, it kept going on for like two minutes of course the second I grab my phone it stops. A couple months later in the bushes next to the steep incline I hear something huge busting through the trees recorded it but all I got was the sound of limbs busting.
Cut to last week I had taken my husband out for dinner and we are going around the last S curve to get to my house then I saw what Rich had saw. I didn't believe it at first because it was so odd, what kind of animal walks against traffic? Not only that it was even in the road it stayed on the shoulder.
It was bigger then any wild dog I've ever seen it was about four feet tall from paws to back and it had a slow deliberate walk like a AT-AT is the only way I can describe it. was to find somebody who has seen something similar but so far I've been unsuccessful. I've just been calling it "The Werepig" my gf just calls it "The Monster in the woods".
This is just a pretty generalized idea, but I feel like the majority of cryptids stay concealed because they are basically endangered animals with relatively small populations. They are also probably skittish and elusive by nature, so they avoid places with large amounts of people because of all the noise and such.
Humans pose a threat to cryptids just like we pose a threat to all other known animals. We destroy and pollute their habitats, making it harder for them to survive and thrive.
I enjoy documentaries about cryptids that try to keep things objective and focus mostly on the facts. I feel this makes them the most credible. Although I am also a fan of mockumentaries, as they're very entertaining and allow one to think how a creature would exist with more ability to guess at these things than to just say "well we're not really sure."
I carry my camera around a lot but that's about as far as it goes in terms of looking for cryptids.
I do plan to go searching eventually, I think it'll be a fun experience and I'll get some nice nature pictures in general but I don't expect to find much.
It's my opinion that cryptids are most of the time just undiscovered creatures that developed naturally but humans haven't extensively studied yet. Although I try to keep an open mind and don't think it would be too outlandish to suspect "otherworldly" intervention.
I would consider myself an environmentalist. I think we have the responsibility to stop habitat destruction for the sake of all the animals on Earth, possible cryptids included.
Cryptids as animals are almost definitely elusive and endangered, and we don't want to wipe out an entire species before even discovering it.
I think that the films & the media choose two versions of cryptids. There's the "scary" movie, like The Hollow (2015) that seem to be some kind of warning that cryptids are a naturally destructive force. Possibly that is a projection of our own feelings about our own monstrous destruction that you point out. There's this other side though--mostly in kid's films like the remake of Pete's Dragon, The Water Horse, Fern Gully, or E.T.--where kids have a privileged relationship with the creatures, protecting them from adult threats. It could be an exercise in building little environmentalists, as many children's books and films build implicit and explicit expectations for the world--acculturation.